You ever had those ends that are split, brittle and plain shabby. The only way to keep the rest of your hair is to cut them off. Yes, cut them off. It is the only way to maintain the health of the rest of the hair. Babe sometimes relationships with people (man/woman) is the same. You can manage better without the damage from brittle people that need to be removed. They stunt your growth and bring a false shiny illusion. Their narcissitic behavior can be draining.
In order to wear the crown queen maintain your emotional health. Your inner is beautiful. Let those without a crown fall off like split ends and forget them. They make you feel broken in their presence and leave their residue behind. You are not broken and the weight is not yours. You just been getting shattered glass pieces thrown at you and yes those sharp pieces hurt but you are a Babe so strut with your head up.
What do like about you? What makes you happy? How can you love on you today that does not even involve someone else? What personal goals can you write down and prepare for? If you want to make some moves, prepare and go for it. Take a leap of faith ONLY consulting the Lord because not everyone will give you the right directions and some may have you second guessing yourself.
Is everyone going to be happy for you, no, but as long as you know that you are a Babe, that is all that matters. I don't know if anyone is going through anything and would to share how to shift their focus but this Babe and others would love your suggestions.